Or does the whole idea of a romantic Valentine's Day make you tired?
I'm not here to perpetuate stereotypes about what Valentine's Day should be like — for some, the perfect romantic evening includes the classic flowers-and-chocolates, and for others it's Downton Abbey and fuzzy slippers.
But I think we can all agree that parenthood and romance are strange bedfellows. As fun as Valentine's Day is for the kids, you and your partner deserve a few relationship hacks of your own.
Take a moment to notice and appreciate — and express — your partner's specialness. If there's no partner in the picture, today's the day to focus on self-care.
For inspiration, here are some of our best "marriage and relationship" hacks:
- Valentine's Day: Celebrate with your spouse the weekend after
- Lighthearted, inexpensive valentines will still do the trick for your sweetheart
- Spouse-life-parenting balance
- Relationship hack: Work off the same to-do list
- How to prepare for your spouse's business travel
- Five lessons learned from 18 years of marriage
- 'The Problem' is the problem — not the kid (this tip is applicable to every relationship)
- At what age do you stop letting your kid see you naked?
- Momversation: Sex after baby
- Cloth diapers as marital aids
- Review: Babyproofing Your Marriage
- How parenthood changes marriage: Gottman's "And Baby Makes Three"
- Momversation: Wife or mother: Which is harder?
- Bath time as grownup "talk time"
- Pass secret messages on diapers
What's your best tip for keeping your relationship strong in the midst of parenting? Got any book recommendations or links to share?
Email me with the subject line RELATIONSHIP and I'll fast-track the best tips. Let's spread the love!
Romance + parenthood is worthy of serious attention, but a little comedy helps, too. In their hilarious video series He Said/She Said, listen to what Monica and Serge have to say about their sex life before and after parenthood.