18 November 2008

Parent Hacks admin: Life intervening; will return shortly

Hi folks,

Sorry for the radio silence. The four-day weekend followed by my son's five-day bout with a mystery illness (complete with ER visit) has temporarily taken over my brainwaves. He's on the mend, as am I, and all's well. But, while waiting for his blood test results, I had a few hours to consider what I would do if he were seriously ill.

We've all been there; life's going along just fine and then, in a moment, everything changes. In our case, it was nothing. Test results: normal. Just a particularly nasty virus. Rest and liquids. But I had the unwelcome opportunity to peer into the abyss of what could be.

The hours I spent in that shadowy place reminded me that I don't have time to be too busy. I don't have time to have too little time for my family or myself. So, rather than update the site or respond to email, I decided to teach my son to crochet (even though I barely know how to myself).

I know you all understand. But I just wanted to hop on and let you know everything is good -- great, even -- and things around here will power up again in a day or two.

PS. Here's why I'm teaching myself to crochet.

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those little crocheted animals are pretty damn cute, enough to make a girl wanna pick up another hobby!

Amigurumi is the only reason _I_ bothered to learn as well. Check out this site for helpful amigurumi-specific tutorial videos! It's not mine, but I like it!

http://mygurumi.blogspot.com/

I'm glad your kid's ok. We had the fun 3 day hospital stay when our then 8 month old got pneumonia. Try explaining that to a little one. The IV was horrible.

I'm glad to hear your little one is okay! My aunt taught me to crochet and cross-stitch when I was very young and I'm just now getting back in the swing of things. I have great memories of spending time crocheting with her and hope to be able to teach the same to my daughter.

Thanks for the link, Elena! And Jennifer, my grandmother taught me to knit and crochet, but I was never patient enough to keep at it until my skill developed past chain stitches. I would now give anything for her to teach me. (youth, wasted on young, etc.)

Tanget: check out these crocheted (out of gold wire) earrings at CMP today!

http://www.coolmompicks.com/2008/11/definitely_not_your_grannys_cr.php

Glad to hear everyone is OK!

Hope you feel free to take all the time you need!

Best to your family, recover well, and... aren't offline hobbies grand?

Thanks, Jeremiah. I used to read all the time, but these days I have a few too many words running through my head. It's good to turn off the intellectualizing. Also, reading books and online stuff takes me elsewhere (mentally). Crochet (or whatever) forces me to stay right here, focusing my mind on simple tasks such as counting or getting my hands to move properly. This is one of my conscious efforts to unplug (in more ways than one) and to take time for myself.

Asha, I'm glad to hear that all is okay with your son, and I'm so sorry to hear that you had that scare.

I certainly can relate to the need to unplug and re-focus on these precious childhood years that go so fast. I've been meaning to start practicing origami with my little girl (she's four now, can you believe it?) and your post today is just the reminder I needed.

I so know that routine. I spent a year and a half trying to figure out why B wasn't growing, hospital specialist after hospital specialist, with them proposing tests that might lead to dire diagnoses - better to know, and way better to find that it is a chronic but not life-threatening condition, but yeah, the 'live life now' thing is a whammy.

Crochet is cool. Origami, also. Older kids, wood carving, too. That's the one that's on my list, teaching G to carve. I know how, I am just out of practice. We don't even over-schedule our lives, and STILL have trouble finding, or making, the time to do stuff like that.

Just wanted to take the time to make my first comment and say that even in taking time away you offer sound advice and information, specifically reminding us of priorities. THANK YOU! I work full time + for a large corporation and run two small businesses - working hard to eliminate that corporate guidance in our life and be 100% self employeed. I balance well considering, always home for evening, dinner, bath and bedtime but often have to return to the office to 'finish' the day. My wife is incredibly understanding and was a big part of our business until she recently took a job that allows her to stay at home with our son and schedule work around his naps and time at a Children's Day Out program at our church. Her job, we're hoping, gets me out of corporate America sooner. All of that said, she just took a business trip for her new job and I shut everything down for 3 wonderful days with my son. The short point of my long post is simply that you seem to regret being away, please be aware that there are those of us out here that firmly believe you deserve any time you need. I cannot begin to tell you how often this site has helped this beginner here learn something new, or provided a simple reminder of the right thing to do (like stepping away as you have here)! Thanks again and I'm also glad all is well with you and yours... On the other topic of hobbies, I built a roping dummy calf that my wife painted up with cow spots and we're going to teach our son to rope early in life. Good reason for us spend time together outdoors and active teaching respect for the animals and a lot of life lessons from rural hard work. :-)

Thank goodness he's OK! I was just recently laid off, and instead of freaking out, I'm choosing to look at it as time for myself, and to spend with my daughter. We always get too wrapped up in work, and forget that, perhaps the trick is to "work to live, not live to work."

How's the crochet going?

Howdy!

I hope you don't mind my hijacking this thread for a moment, but I wanted y'all to know that today isn't just another ordinary day: it's Asha's birthday!

How about a shout-out to my lovely wife, @parenthacks!

(Oh, and nice to meet you all :-)

—Rael (hubby)

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