Parenting: No amount of practice makes perfect, nor should it
…just please, please, please leave gaps in your shiny optimised parenting to get wrong and messy.
Teaching kids how to surf on the crest of chaos and anarchy, is one of the most useful life skills we can impart. Though we need to be free (and admittedly organised) enough to play; we cannot let the processes rather than their personhood become the goal.
To which I replied:
I just had to respond to Bee with an emphatic YES... ...None of us wishes difficulty on our kids, but there’s no other way for them to learn just how strong and resourceful they are. Smoothing the path too much can be as problematic as anything else.
What that means to me? Freedom, license even, to be imperfect. Responsible, loving, and imperfect.
It always good to be reminded that perfection is never the goal, for our kids or for ourselves.