Here's a sticky one. Sharon asks:
I need some help. Our six year old has taken on an unattractive trait. He likes to make things up and does not come clean afterwards. Essentially, he is lying.
Example #1: He told his teacher that he did not have a lunch the other day. I made him a lunch but he decided that he didn't want to eat it. His teacher knows that I am good about sending lunch so she suspected he was lying. He told me the truth and then I took him to apologize to his teacher.
Example #2: I asked him if he tried anything new at Souplantation. He said he tried nuts on his ice cream. Later I find out that he did not. This one is not a big deal but he still lied and never told the truth.
I need some help with a logical and immediate consequence for lying. I also need help with communicating to him the importance of telling the truth and being honest. Joking is fine but you must come clean. We told him the story of the boy who cried wolf. He wanted to know more about the wolf. We decided that the next time this happens he will have to write sentences about what he did (practice writing) and he gets extra chores around the house (community service). Someone out there must have some good advice. Can we talk?
Anyone with experience to share?