During those first few weeks with a new baby, here’s how Mieke helped her visitors help her:
Notice how everybody wants to come by and offers to help but you end up having to do *more* rather than *less* because of all the visits? Well, we put a "chores-list" up on the whiteboard. That way, whenever people said "Let me know if there’s anything we can do," we could point to the board and say "Actually, there’ s a list riiight there. Pick whichever you’d like to do…"
And yes, anything goes. Different people like to do different things to help, so you might as well list anything you can think of. Doing dishes, starting/folding laundry, running errands, putting together the new swing/toy/etc, grocery shopping, footrubs, cleaning toilet, mounting a curtain-rod, cooking a tasty meal, addressing thank-you notes, changing sheets… Almost everybody is happy to do just one small thing to help. And you’ll feel better too!