When you have little kids, "quiet time to talk to your spouse" seems as quaint and fantastical as "Sunday breakfast in bed." Sara and her husband found the best time to talk is during bath time:
On days when my husband and I have no time, we plan out what needs to be done in the bathroom while our daughter takes her bath. She's happily occupied (and I imagine multiple kids at the same time would be as well), one of us has to be in there with her anyway, and we're free from distractions.
Generally, one of us mans the bath and dictates and the other one takes notes or makes lists. (It actually works well in less stressful times for working through technical problems or planning work.)
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