Ask MeFi: On parental happiness
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Now here's an Ask MetaFilter thread you can really sink your teeth into. Especially as we approach the American Day of Thanks tomorrow:
Does having kids actually make people less happy?
The answers are fascinating and honest. A friend and I were talking about this topic once, when our kids were younger and (in general) harder to handle, and she said, talking about herself and her husband, "Are we 'happier' as parents? Probably not. But is there more joy in our lives? Absolutely."
That statement always stuck with me. I don't necessarily feel the same way, but I do feel like she was onto something by making a distinction between "happiness," which can be ephemeral, and "joy," which transcends the bad days.