David's quandary got me thinking about how children should address adults. My kids address the parents of their friends by their first names (because that's how the parents introduce themselves), but I insist that they use "Mr." and "Mrs." with elderly people and adults they don't know well. It gets us funny looks, but I think it's an important reminder to kids that a certain measure of respect simply comes with age.
It amazes me that the custom of addressing adults respectfully has all but died out in a single generation. When I was a kid, I NEVER used my friends' parents first names. My mom, despite being a laid-back, friendly, casual person, felt uncomfortable when my friends called her by her first name.
And yet, I don't want to be called "Mrs. Dornfest." I expect the respect, but I don't feel comfortable with the formality. Do these things go hand-in-hand?