Lisa's kids are old enough to have cell phones, which is how they prefer to conduct most of their social planning. Privacy and all. Well, at a recent school meeting, one of the moms in attendance mentioned that she requires her kids to stow their cell phones when they get home from school, and that all social calls must be made on the home phone. Not because she wants to eavesdrop or keep tabs, but because she wants to have a point of contact with her childrens' friends. Even the basic "Hello, Mrs. Miller. Can I please speak to Johnny?" is better than nothing, and in this way she can get a better sense of who her kids are spending time with. She can also begin building her own relationships with her kids' friends, so she's more real to them than simply "Johnny's mom."
Interestingly, Lisa said that this mother caught some flak from the other parents at the meeting for being overly restrictive. Granted, my kids are still little, but I thought this sounded like a perectly reasonable idea — a clear way to set limits and to let kids know you care about their friendships and want to be involved, even in small ways.
What do you think?